Procrastination Questions
Why Don’t I Stop Procrastinating? by Steven Griggs
Why Don’t I Stop Procrastinating?
While it is not a life-changing syndrome; that is, a diagnosis found in mental health journals as a separate problem, Procrastination is still a pain, psychologically. It can create mild symptoms or some that are chronic, even paralyzing. Regardless, procrastination is something that can be looked at.
Procrastination is really a form of ambivalence. This is not widely accepted. Ambivalence is when part of you wants something and part of your doesn’t want that something. It doesn’t have to be two things that directly collide. One of the “somethings” can be related to the other, just not the same, requiring a choice that is, at least partially, mutually exclusive. Ambivalence can be in in our consciousness, partially in awareness or totally out of awareness. This is relatively unimportant, because the subjective experience of it is discomfort. This ambivalence aspect actually creates anxiety, but it is of the kind that is not usually coupled with panic disorders, proper.
Procrastination is experienced when these conflicts occur in our lives and we don’t want to navigate that territory. For example, I’m supposed to finish a paper for school but I want to play video games. I’ll think about the former but want to do the later. The choices are about two things that are relatively incompatible and sooner or later, I have to consider the choices. I have to choose one. Either one I pick will have a repercussion, and I know one of them will have obnoxious consequences.
I usually pick the more cheery, self-serving behavior, which consequentially means I’m putting off choosing the “other.” This appears to be procrastinating, because I’m not doing something, but in reality I’m sneaking past a conflict. I am ambivalent, experiencing some level of fretfulness and trying avoid the whole thing.
As was discussed above, the things we procrastinate about can be immense or insignificant, in or out of awareness, and be passing or longer lasting. Those are just the things that might happen on a daily basis, but the way procrastination functions is the same in each environment. We usually opt for the more self-serving behavior in the service of either moving past the conflict; that is, making it evaporate from our awareness, or to just avoid the less pleasant of the two choices.
This latter dynamic is often a function of our spontaneity. As can be seen, this quality has many ways of making itself known, some of which are productive, like when we procrastinate in order to gather more information before acting on something. Some dynamics are deleterious, like when we don’t get that school project done on time.
In order to explain procrastination, we have to access the ambivalence. We have to “pull up” into awareness, the fullconsequencesof our choices. But for the vast majority of us, to do that means we also have to do a little self-questioning and self-answering. You see, ambivalence doesn’t just occupy one and only one space in our heads. There are plausible reasons we avoid certain things, other than they may or may not be more tiring to do than something else. Sometimes it’s about not wanting to express a belief or feeling, such as anxiety. If someone asks you to do something and you feel put upon, it is dubious you will cooperate with their request. So, you don’t, obviously, which is about not dealing with your internal state, expressing yourself and later fixing ambivalence. The superficial behavior then looks like procrastinating, when in fact, its just about avoiding conflict (which is probably at the heart of ambivalence in most cases).
For a more in-depth explanation of Procrastination, see the following web page.
-Dr. Griggs
http://www.psychologyproductsandservices.com/page192.html
About the Author
The author is a clinical psychologist in private practice for twenty-six years. For more information about this and other articles and ebooks by this author, start with: http://www.psychologyproductsandservices.com. For more information about the author, go to:
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